Aren't Catholics just homophobes?

Let me first say this; I love my brothers and sisters who struggle with same sex attraction.
I pray for them, and wish them God's very best; union with Him in heaven forever.
It's a problem I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. We all have our obstacles to entering the Kingdom of God and eternal salvation, but I think that SSA is one of the higher hurdles, like substance abuse or overcoming an abusive childhood, which requires singular courage (thus the aptly named Courage apostolate which helps do just that).
Where the misunderstanding comes in is this: my Church and I love these brothers and sisters enough not to lie to them; the truth is sexual sin outside marriage is a mortal sin, which bars us from eternal life.
The homosexual agenda is something apart from the individuals with SSA; it is an attempt to force reconition of a sinful lifestyle, thus degrading how God made us; man and woman, with our marital union built upon our complimentary natures. Thus we can love the sinner, the man or woman struggling with SSA while we oppose the agenda. This is lost in the public debate, where leaders insist: "if you don't say our lifestyle is acceptable, you are guilty of hate speech". Listen to what God has to say about marriage, and decide if what I said is hate speech.
" We read in the Book of Genesis: “God created man in His image; in the Divine image he created him; male and female He created them. God blessed them, saying: ‘Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it.’” (1:28-29)
The same was taught by Our Savior Jesus Christ: “From the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother; and shall cleave to his wife.” (Mark 10:6-7)Rejection of the Christian worldview is secularism’s negative, destructive aspect. Its “positive” aspect is the utopia of a society without moral restraints in which marriage and the family have been redefined."
It resembles the pro-abortion movement which insists that because abortion was legalized by judicial fiat apart from the will of the people, that it is morally acceptable. Consensus does NOT change the truth of Scripture and Church teaching: abortion is murder, and homosexual activity is sinful, no matter what state approves it, God never will. Because He loves you, and wants you to be free. Free from addictions and complulsions which keep you from Him.

The Society for the Preservation of Tradition Family and Property has an explanation of how the homosexual agenda would destroy the traditional family. If Christians, Jews, Muslims would truly understand how the homosexual agenda threatens the traditional family, and unite, we could stop this tsnami in it's tracks. We must, or our children will inherit a debased culture, which will threaten their freedom to express their faith.